so i was just having this conversation in class, and i just wanna make something clear for people.
When it comes to my disability (And probably other people’s too), my “Lack of Empathy” isn’t
It’s more like
It’s not that I don’t care, it’s that i have absolutely no idea what to do.
Lol this is perfect
I got a four, what did you get?
I got a 6, lol.
I got a 6
I got… F? I failed the test?
I took it again just in case and it came out the same.
I got a 6! Surprised? I did not think so.
I got 0 lmao
There’s the problem right here. This arbitrary set of rules that every black person has to follow, and god forbid they break.
And this has been bothering me for a long time. Years actually.
To my peeps how aren’t black and may not understand, in my culture there are set of unspoken rules to being black, similar to that of a “Man Card” (In this case I will call a Black Card).
My entire life I had these set of rules (And these are just some) shown both explicitly and implicitly:
—And for the record I’m talking about interests and parts of being an individual not broader topics like dealing with the police, which at this point. it’s true. We can get killed for doing nothing when the police are around. That is not a opinion, it’s a fact.— Now on to the list…
Black women (or people as a whole)…
And guess what? I broke (and break) every single one those on that list, and I still am very very happy that I am black. I’m not rejecting my ‘African-American’ title, unlike a certain former child actress. I understand the struggle, the downright misogynoir (sexism and racism) I have to deal with on a regular basis.
I’ve gotten the looks, the stares, and ‘side eye’, the open opinions, even the concern from my mother about the state of my blackness because I didn’t uphold my Black Card proudly.
And personally think it’s bullshit. Understandable because it’s still culture parts of it need to be upheld, but it’s still bullshit that it’s enforced so harshly.
And I’m not saying that people who do all these things and are straight and interested in everything that black people as whole stereotypically like. If you like that, because you like that stuff then fine. But if you like it because everyone likes it, or that you’re supposed to, that’s an issue.
Why does being born African-American rob people of being an individual by their own people? It’s one thing when it’s society as a whole, but the people, my people who are doing this. To their own.
We’ve lived in shackles for centuries, whether they be physical or mental from white people. Why are we pushing them on ourselves?
You can be ‘black’ and not follow all these rules. You can hold being black, and being yourself at the same level of importance. If people give you shit because you don’t fit into the absolute fit of a ‘black person’, screw them.
And think everyone of us needs to know that.
Being black doesn’t rob you of your agency over your life and what (or who) you like. Like what(or who) you like because you like it.